Living with Disability

As surprising as it may seem in this era ofwork with the challenges of their particular disability,
enlightenment and increased awareness, people withvisible or not.
disabilities, both visible and non visible continue to bePeople with non visible disabilities are sometimes
stigmatized by our society.viewed by others as being malingerers, wanting
While we do not provide enough assistance forattention, or lying. There are many serious conditions
people with disabilities in areas of income,that cannot be "seen", but that are very real and
transportation and accessibility, people with visiblejust as debilitating. (depression, chronic fatigue,
disabilities are not questioned or disbelieved regardingarthritis, heart conditions, diabetes, crohns disease,
their condition. Their challenges can be seen.etc.)
They still face many barriers. It can be challenging toThese attitudes disempower everyone who lives
find work, as potential employers cannot see pastwith a disability. Most folks are doing the very best
the disability; it can be challenging to try to get intothey can, despite the additional challenges they face
stores due to the blocked or very narrow aisles, andin our society. They are to be admired and respected
it can be challenging to try to survive financially.for their tenacity and courage in the face of
There are many misconceptions when it comes toadversity.
disability. Most of them diminish the individual.If your disability can't be seen, you might be judged
A friend of mine has a visible disability. She is able tolazy, and if it can be seen, you might be judged
work part time and is also on a partial provincialincompetent. It can feel like a no-win situation. It
pension as well. The treatment she has receivedreally is hard to believe that these narrow minded
from the people who govern this program has beenattitudes still persist in the year 2007.
reprehensible at times.All of us deserve to be respected for who we are.
A number of years ago, she was asked to open herTreat everyone you meet with kindness, love and
purse so they could look inside to make sure sheunderstanding. They may have problems that you
didn't have any extra money; and it was insinuatedcannot see and a big dose of kindness will help them
that perhaps she was being fraudulent as sheget through another day. At the very least, it will for
"couldn't possibly live on so little". (note that it is thisa moment or two, help to diffuse the stress others
department who oversee the rates set by thelive with daily.
government they work for) Sensitivity training mightFor those who may be interested, I'd like to
be in order.recommend a book. It is called Six Degrees of
She has to undergo a yearly "assessment" of herDignity: Disability in an Age of Freedom and it's
disability pension needs. She is forced to justify herwritten by David W. Shannon. David is a lawyer who
need to be on a disability pension, which in her case ishappens to be a quadriplegic. This book identifies the
ridiculous, as her disability has been with her sincesocial and attitudinal barriers still present in Canadian
birth and it isn't going anywhere. It almost falls intoSociety
the category of harassment by the government andAs a woman I know, who has a non visible disability
strips away the dignity of the individual.says, "If you are a person with a disability, when you
Disability brings with it mind numbing fatigue andfeel disillusioned with the people around you,
requires a Herculean effort to function. All peopleremember that other people's opinion of you does
who face a health challenge of any type have had tonot have to be your reality.
learn how to adapt in order to accommodate and