| After you've browsed the disabled personals and | | | | it's absolutely vital that communication is clear and |
| gone on a handful of dates, are there ways you can | | | | comfortable about it. Physical handicaps don't define |
| begin to size up your potential mate? Are they totally | | | | you as a human being, but they are a part of your |
| right or totally wrong for you? First impressions really | | | | lifestyle and it's crucial that your significant other is |
| do count and there are ways you can prevent a lot | | | | prepared to accept this fact and is willing to care for |
| of pain, suffering and heartbreak - know when to cut | | | | you, if necessary. If you want them to hang around |
| your losses and move on to the next guy or gal. If | | | | for the long haul, then there's no reason to keep |
| the two of you are not meant to be, it's best for | | | | dating someone who isn't ready for such a |
| both of you to not waste each other's time. | | | | commitment. Never doubt that you are worth that |
| Basically, disabled singles face the same challenges | | | | kind of commitment and don't apologize for |
| and concerns of those without physical handicaps, | | | | expecting it. |
| but there are added elements to be considered as | | | | 3. Does your partner make you feel good about |
| you "audition" your love interests. A lot of people | | | | yourself? If being in a relationship only increases your |
| dislike such practical talk about romance; is it really so | | | | self-consciousness and anxieties about being disabled, |
| formulaic and practical? Romance is beautiful and | | | | etc, then you are not in the right relationship. In fact, |
| magical, but that doesn't mean you have to remove | | | | it might be important for you to remain single for a |
| your brain when you go on a date. It's important that | | | | while! When you're with the right person, they will |
| you protect yourself and not set yourself up for | | | | bolster your self esteem and encourage you to be a |
| disaster. This is especially true for those using | | | | better person. |
| disabled dating services, as they sometimes feel | | | | 4. Is there a lot you're hoping to change about your |
| more vulnerable due to their physical limitations and | | | | mate? If you constantly think "it will all be fine, as |
| end up worrying that their chances of true love are | | | | soon as he/she changes in this way," etc, then you |
| also limited. | | | | are not being realistic about the relationship. Just as |
| So, here is a litmus test (or questionnaire really) to | | | | you would accept a lover's physical disability, you |
| help you along as you are looking for dating. It's | | | | have to accept all of their shortcomings, even if they |
| important to always keep an open mind and not | | | | seem like they can be easily changed. If the success |
| have narrow requirements for Mr. or Mrs. Right, but | | | | of your relationship depends on the other person |
| there are some basic things you two shouldn't have | | | | making changes that you aren't in control of, then it |
| conflicts about. | | | | might be time to reevaluate the situation. |
| 1. Are you both looking for a long-term relationship? | | | | So, is the person you are with the person you are |
| Single dating is fun when both of you are on the | | | | meant to be with? In addition to answering these |
| same page, otherwise it can lead to regrettable | | | | questions, remember to trust your instincts at all |
| heartbreak. If you're thinking about the future and | | | | times. Chances are you will know if something isn't |
| you're date is only thinking about tonight, then it can | | | | working... don't talk yourself out of your gut feeling. |
| be very difficult to make it work. | | | | Internet Disabled Dating will increases your chances |
| 2. Do you talk easily about the disability? Whether | | | | immensely of finding true love easy. |
| you have the disability or they do, or you both do, | | | | |